Seeking clarity on who you want to become.

Something I’ve been focused a lot on this year are the two main goals I set for myself. One was simplification of my life, and the other was going “all-in” on what I was doing. Part of that initial vision was gaining clarity on who I was supposed to be, who I was going to be, how I was going to project that into the world, and how I was going to treat myself. 

I wanted to share my thoughts on gaining clarity on who you want to be, what that looks like for you, and the steps that are needed to be able to achieve this clarity. This all starts with a simple questions of who it is that you want to be? 

With all clarity must come vision. You have to have a vision on what it is you want to be and who it is that you want to be. Know that this could change a little bit as you go along but you at least want to have a clear idea on the person you’re trying to go after. 

Next, you have to set clear intentions on who you want to be each and every day. One thing that I know for sure is that habits rule our world. Whatever habits that we have and whatever habits we’ve created will always be there. You just have to know how to manage them and get better at not giving in to them. So, when you set clear intentions each and every day on who you want to be, you have to keep in mind those habits that you don’t want to fall back into that are likely not in line with who you want to be. 

An example here is that I don’t want to be the person that just sits on the couch every night doing nothing. I don’t like doing it. I want to study. I want to learn. I want to grow each and every day. So for me, what that looks like is that I have to meditate. I have to clear my head. I have to get up early. I have to read books. I have to work out. I have to stay active. I have to eat right. To be able to do all that, I have to carve out time in the day and be intentional with every action that I take.

Clear and well thought  intentions every single day are necessary because it’s really easy to fall back into that person that you don’t want to be. Because you’ve been that person and once you’ve been that person, it’s really easy to go back. Think about that in terms of weight loss; If you’ve ever lost weight and come from a life of being overweight you might know or have personally experienced that it’s really easy to put back on. 

So I’ll say it again…Clear intentions on who you want to be each day – Part of that is your daily routine. Consistently following it, mapping it out so that nothing interferes with it. As I just mentioned, I get up, I meditate, I journal, I read, I work out. That’s a solid morning routine with intention on making myself better every single day. 

The other half of this is setting intentions with how you want to interact with others throughout the day.  A good example of this is how you react to someone cutting you off in traffic. We all know it’s aggravating, and that these people need to take a flying leap but are we really going to let it ruin our day?

As a side note, I heard something funny the other day. Someone said just envision that person has to get somewhere in poop. Then you’re like, “oh man, yeah go on by!” I thought it was pretty funny.

Again, how are you  going to interact with those people? How are you going to interact with the barista at Starbucks when you go for your morning coffee? Are you gonna be upset because there’s a long line, and you’re in a hurry because you didn’t get up soon enough, because you didn’t leave the house quick enough? Or are you going to be thankful that they’re serving you for the day, doing the job they showed up for, and when you get your coffee you say “Thank you so much, I hope you have a lovely day!”

What steps are you going to take to achieve your goals for the day? Assuming you have goals, every single day are micro steps towards that goal. What actions are we taking in that day, in that moment to achieve those goals? This is an important one. Every single day is an opportunity to advance yourself closer to your goals and farther away from that person that you don’t want to be anymore. 

What skills will be needed to achieve this ties back into getting up early, your routine, and being nice to people, tuning your body, going to the gym, all of which you have to practice. Cumulatively, those things all tie in to seeking clarity on the person you want to become. 

And last but not least is service. How can you serve the people in your life? How can you serve yourself and serve others within each day? Contribution is one of the 6 humans needs and can be fulfilled by living and leading a life of service to others. How to serve is up to you.

Keep in mind that these are all important things to think about and that this is a daily practice. If it’s not practiced daily it becomes really easy to slide right back into that person that you’re trying to leave behind. Then that voice gets into your head and says:

Come on back…you’re more comfortable over here. Sit next to me on this couch, you’ll like it better. Go ahead and  turn on that TV. No, you don’t need to read, you don’t need to expand your mind. While you’re at it, just order that pizza. And you don’t need to workout, just sit down today. You can go work out tomorrow.”

And we all know where that leads us. 

To summarize, clarity starts with a vision. A solid vision of who you want to become. It’s with that vision that you set daily intentions designed to progressively move you closer and closer to goal, which is achieved through consistent and daily practice.

Now, go get ‘em.

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