Let’s chat about something that is VERY REAL: Your daily habits, both good or bad, are creating your future self.
“A habit is a redundant set of automatic, unconscious thoughts, behaviors, and emotions that you acquire through frequent repetition.”
Think of this as predictability. You have a certain emotion, and habitually (predictable) you react to that emotion. The same goes for routines.
Predictability isn’t a bad thing. It’s what you’re doing with it that creates the environment to change yourself.
So what do we know about change? It’s difficult and uncomfortable, but it’s usually for the better. It’s the first two points that make the action of change a task that most are unwilling to tackle.
It’s our habits and predictability that are holding us back from making a change in our life. These create comfort and solace when things start getting tough. We see this in the gym a lot.
Someone wants to get in shape and decide they will start working out. Let’s say this person has a 9-5 job and kids that makes them have to plan accordingly to get to the gym. The mornings tend to work best for them, so 6am it is. It’s all good for a few weeks until the little voice in their head starts to creep in acknowledging that they are tired and should just sleep in a little this morning and miss the gym. Strike one.
They’re predictable self is trying to bring them back into their past selves.
The next day this person has a rough day at work, issues with the kids and justifies with themself that a few glasses of wine and staying up a little later than normal to binge on some shows is in order, knowing full well that they will not get up to hit the gym in the morning because they’ve earned this treat. Strike two.
The following day will probably be a wednesday or thursday and now the predictability and habit of trying to get comfortable really starts to set in. Today’s justification usually looks something like “Well, I’ve miss 2-3 days this week already, I’ll just pick it back up next week.”. GAME OVER.
This person falls off, and either works up enough inner courage after some time off to come back in or we never see or hear from them again (despite our best efforts). It’s a predictable scenario at this point.
If this sounds familiar, it’s not your fault. We are wired this way. We seek comfort, we avoid struggle.
Dr. Joe Dispenza describes these moments:
“In a very real sense, your body is dragging you into the same predictable future based on what you have been repeatedly doing in the same familiar past. You will think the same thoughts, and then make the same choices that lead to the same behaviors that create the same experiences that produce the same emotions. Over time, you’ve created a set of hardwired neurological networks in the brain and you have emotionally conditioned your body to live in the past – and the past becomes your future.
If you were looking at a timeline of your day, starting with waking up in the morning and continuing until you go to bed that night, you could pick up that timeline of yesterday or today (your past) and place it in the space reserved for tomorrow (the future) because essentially the same actions you took today are the ones you are going to take tomorrow – and the day after that, and the day after that. Let’s face it: If you keep the same routine as yesterday, it makes sense that your tomorrow is going to be a lot like your yesterday. Your future is just a rerun of your past. That’s because your yesterday is creating your tomorrow.”
The trick is to rewire yourself to accept that the payoff of being uncomfortable is that you will become a better version of yourself and it’s worth it in the end. I know it’s worth it because everyone who has ever wanted to change themselves for the better and put in the work to do so, never regretted doing it.
So what does your tomorrow look like?