In my last post I discussed establishing why you are setting out to do something and how this is the missing link to creating the action of change. Check it out HERE.
I wanted to take a few minutes and expand on this thought about something that I see with this thought process that is fairly common.
Are you ready for a cold dose of reality?
Your supposed “Why” is not really why you’ve set out to accomplish something…
What I’m saying here is that generally the reason behind wanting to do something is disguised by what people believe others might want to hear. Confusing sentence short: you think it sounds good to others.
Here’s a good example:
I’m doing this for my kids…(in this case we’ll use health and fitness)
The fuck you are.
Then why are you consistently not leading by example?
I see your Instagram Karen…drinking heavily on the weekends, eating shitty food, always tired…but you’re coming to the gym to be healthy for your kids and be a great example…right.
You’re coming to the gym because somewhere inside you know its right and you’re trying to stay somewhat ahead of the damage you’re doing every single weekend a la “I work out so I can eat what I want.”
The exact same sentence can be used on the why of “I’m doing this so I can be healthy.”…Then why for the love of God can you not keep a cookie out of your mouth? It’s not balance, it’s your inability to handle responsibility.
Y’all, these are (somewhat) exaggerated ideas, but they’re not too far off. The point I’m trying to make here is to be honest with yourself about why you’re setting out to do something.
If you want a tight ass, then stick with that.
If you really are doing it for you’re kids then lead by example FOR THEM.
If you’re doing something to be healthy, then let’s show a little restraint from the not so healthy things instead of justifying it as “balance”.
So here’s a few of mine:
- I run a couple businesses and work every single day so that I can provide for my family and set us up long term. Money is nice, and more money is even nicer.
- I workout to keep my body and mind sharp. No, I’m not as in shape as I used to be, but at least I can still make it a point to be in the gym 4-6 times a week to “earn” my pizza.
- I get so worked up about things in the health & fitness world because I legit care about trying to make people better humans and get extremely tired of hearing bullshit excuses.
I hope that helps get the point across. Be honest with yourself and don’t try to create a vision of something that you don’t wholly believe in. It won’t last for you if it’s truly not in line with your values.
For those that may not know, I run a CrossFit in Grapevine, TX. CHECK IT. To combat some of these things I rant about, we are coming out with a challenge in April once we get through all the CrossFit Open shenanigans.
More details to come, but the quick summary is it’s going to be hard, most will not finish, and those that do will be different people by the end. When I say different, I mean it. Not only physically but mentally tougher as well which is usually a big piece to being able to stick with something.